Being Unreliable
Dec. 1st, 2004 01:40 pmMonday, I mentioned that our Monday game was shifting to a confusing and complicated schedule -- the upshot of this complication was supposed to be that we were playing mostly on Thursdays, except that one of the reliable members of the group (Ed, playing April at the moment) couldn't be there every Thursday. It wasn't until the next day that I realized that I *already*, in theory, had a game on Thursdays, and should have objected on those grounds.
The thing is, S, who hasn't been reliable lately, really wanted to move to Thursdays because Mondays weren't working out for her or her brother... maybe he could un-drop-out if we switched, even. On the other hand, there was no good reason that she couldn't make Mondays, she just had one one-time excuse after another -- this week it was her mother's birthday, next week she was waiting on some documents she had to sign for, and so on.
So I was sitting there, trying to decide whether to tell the Monday group that it had to stay Mondays, or tell the Thursday people that I was dropping out, and I decided to ask the Monday group what they thought I should do.
This was a bad idea.
After a lot of e-mail drama (mostly self-pity and 'don't do anything on *my* account' from three different people, including me), S admitted that the real reason she wasn't coming was because she's been driving without proper glasses, while legally blind, without insurance, and didn't feel comfortable driving at night -- and lately, all our games are 'at night', thanks to daylight savings and the latitude.
And I still don't know what to do.
The thing is, S, who hasn't been reliable lately, really wanted to move to Thursdays because Mondays weren't working out for her or her brother... maybe he could un-drop-out if we switched, even. On the other hand, there was no good reason that she couldn't make Mondays, she just had one one-time excuse after another -- this week it was her mother's birthday, next week she was waiting on some documents she had to sign for, and so on.
So I was sitting there, trying to decide whether to tell the Monday group that it had to stay Mondays, or tell the Thursday people that I was dropping out, and I decided to ask the Monday group what they thought I should do.
This was a bad idea.
After a lot of e-mail drama (mostly self-pity and 'don't do anything on *my* account' from three different people, including me), S admitted that the real reason she wasn't coming was because she's been driving without proper glasses, while legally blind, without insurance, and didn't feel comfortable driving at night -- and lately, all our games are 'at night', thanks to daylight savings and the latitude.
And I still don't know what to do.